I went back to the band brake, calipers hung too low to the ground and the hole would need drilled back out anyway. The crossbar welded in went right over the brake mount hole. The shop didn't have any more 6' brake cables, I already bought them all. So I may steal one off my other build, it has two brakes and I wanted to finish this up before the end of the month. Hopefully the shop will get more cables in for my other build.
I think I have a good idea for a stand. The factory made rear stand won't work with the rear BMX forks, but I can make up a stand fairly easily. A "U" shape and two holes for the axle. The bracket on top of the fender can hold it while it's up, and the two bamboo supports under the board can provide a stop when it's down. Maybe I can cut up the factory one, it's made for a 26" bike.
I think the flex in the frame can be lessened if I mount the board differently. Instead of a horizontal brace running along the middle, separate braces across the frame at 4 spots should secure the board so it provides more rigidity. I'll use thicker metal also.